“It’s not a question of getting over it or healing. No; it’s a question of learning to live with this transformation. For the loss is transformative, in good ways and bad, a tangle of change that cannot be threaded into the usual narrative spools. It is too central for that. It’s not an emergence from the cocoon, but a tree growing around an obstruction.”
As Spring envelops us, everything should be alright, right? In fact, after a long Winter, it’s often the Spring time that brings the most pain. April is called the cruellest month, often the time that those who’ve held on for dear life over the hibernating months of winter find the most difficult.
by Meghan O’Rourke – Living with Loss.